Sunday, December 6, 2009

Grocery List

Just for fun I thought I'd post one of our current typical co-op shopping lists. It's fun to look back at things like this to see how they (and we) have changed over time.

Grocery List
  1. Bragg's organic raw apple cider vinegar
  2. Whole wheat bread flour (local, organic, bulk)
  3. Rye flour (local, organic, bulk)
  4. Maple syrup (local, organic)
  5. Eggs (pastured, local)
  6. Steel cut oats (local, organic, bulk)
  7. Butter (pastured, local)
  8. Yellow popping corn (local, organic, bulk)
  9. Miso (organic)
  10. Bubbie's dill pickles
  11. Toothpaste
  12. Frozen veggies (local, organic)
  13. Bananas (organic)
  14. Tea (organic)
  15. Dried split peas (local, organic, bulk)
  16. Carrots (organic)
  17. Fresh-ground peanut butter (organic, bulk)
  18. Whole wheat pastry flour (organic)
  19. Raw wildflower honey (organic)
  20. GT Dave's kombucha

Monday, November 30, 2009

Making Ends Meet

Things are getting a bit more challenging here on the financial front since we decided I would leave my part-time position with my family's business, even after John's pay has been decreased by 75% since the beginning of the year.

Now our mortgage payment is fully one-half of our take-home pay. Luckily, we do have a little bit of savings that has helped us fill in the gaps so far. We are just keeping our fingers crossed that John's business picks up quickly...before our savings run out.

In the meantime, we are grateful that John still has a job, that we have health insurance (more importantly, that we have been mostly healthy), and that we are not in any immediate danger of losing our home.

I have also been grateful that both our mothers have shared with us that things were tight for them too when we were young children. This has been especially encouraging for me to hear because 1) As children, neither John nor I realized that finances were as tight as they were (so hopefully our children will not remember things as being as dire as we sometimes feel like they are), and 2) Both of our mothers are very comfortable now, in their later years. We figure that gives us hope for our financial future too.

We have continued to cut costs wherever we can, even making a game out of it. Recently we dropped our cell phone plan and switched to pre-paid plans to be used for emergencies only, which will save us close to $100 a month. This will help to cover things like medical co-pays, which previously had to come out of savings. Next up for closer scrutiny is our land line and internet. (We never had cable TV, so we couldn't cut that out...)

Except for our food and gas budget, which has been much tighter than we would like, it has been reassuring to know that we can make it without many of the extras.

Cost-cutting measures that we have tried over the last few months that have stuck:
  • Keeping the thermostat at 60 (sometimes we splurge on a Sunday and crank it up to 64 if we're all home watching football together and not moving around to keep warm!)
  • Washing all clothes in cold water and shortening the cycles
  • Drying all the clothes on low and using a "less dry" setting (it still gets them dry!)
  • Hanging dry some clothes in our bedroom each night instead of using a humidifier for the dry winter months
  • Stretching one 3.5-4 pound chicken into 4 meals
  • Buying produce from the 1/2 price "seconds" bin at the co-op (like bananas, apples, and pears) whenever I can find it
  • Combining (and minimizing) errands
  • Asking grandparents to give the kids birthday and Christmas gifts in the form of ballet and pottery tuition, instead of giving plastic toys that will be lost or thrown out within days
  • Replacing expensive gymnastics classes for the kids with much more affordable park board classes (that they like a lot more!)
  • Cutting Snacks' hair at home instead of having it professionally done
  • Learning to make some of my own face/body/haircare products instead of buying them
  • Making all our food from scratch, including things like yogurt, bread, cereal, etc.
Things that we've tried that haven't stuck:
  • Hanging every single piece of clothing outside on the clothesline to dry
  • Running the dishwasher with cold water
  • Trying to concoct my own laundry soap
We have definitely had to become more resourceful. I am especially proud of finding evergreen trimmings a neighbor put out for recycling pick-up that I used in place of expensive spruce tops in our front planters. Looks a little more "Dr. Seuss-ish" than I would like, but the kids don't mind. And they love the tacky red jingle bell wreath I found for less than $2 at the thrift store to put on our front door!

So while we wish we had more money in the bank than we currently do, we are certainly learning to appreciate the things we do have--health, home, food, family...--much more than ever before.

I'm pretty sure we'll look back and say it was all worth it.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Sweet Autumn

Fall is my very favorite season. Snacks had three days off of school, so I decided to make the most of it.

Wednesday the kids and I went to pick apples. Since it was allowed, we tasted our way through the orchard in order to decide what we like best. Snacks knew about all kinds of apples from his recent trip to an orchard with school and decided on Sweet Tango apples which, he said, taste like a banana split...and I have to agree.

I chose Haralsons to take home for both eating and baking and, of course, who could leave an orchard without at least a few Honeycrisps?

We visited the goats and chickens, ate apple cinnamon donuts, and picked out a pumpkin, some gourds, and some Indian corn to take home along with our apples.

Thursday we went to Heritage Village for the Harvest Festival where the kids got to visit a museum for old tractors and farm equipment, ride on a horse-drawn trolley, pick an ear of corn right from the field, make corn husk dolls and wooden boats, and do some old-fashioned print-making.

Friday John took the day off and took the kids to Cherokee Park to hunt for fossils where they climbed around in a clay pit and came home soaking wet, filthy, and happy with their pockets full of treasures. (And because John typically refuses to travel with a camera, we will just have to imagine what their fun looked like.)

Saturday the big chicken coop project began with John pulling out the old lilac bushes with his old truck and a big chain--a project which included taking apart the back fence and repeatedly running over my poor peony bushes (you can't see them in this picture because, in fact, they are under the truck).


Today the kids and I put our Dowling plot "to bed" for the season while John continued work on the coop. Sissy insisted on driving her car all the way to the garden. Thankfully, it was a gorgeous fall day so Snacks and I didn't mind that the walk had to be leisurely.

We ended the perfect weekend with pastured brats on the grill, chips with homemade salsa, and homemade pumpkin pie the kids and I baked this afternoon.


Life here is good.

Friday, October 16, 2009

Keepsakes

I often think I should be following my kids around with a camera and a tape recorder all the time. They say and do so many precious things so many times a day; things I want to remember always, but know I'll forget before long.

Today I'm thinking about the smattering of freckles across the bridge of Snacks' nose that you can only see when you are close enough to kiss him, and the way Sissy's hair curls into perfect flaxen corkscrews when it's warm. And I'm remembering Sissy's giant smile in the early morning light each morning after she has climbed over me and tucked herself in to snuggle up to her still-sleeping dad, and the way Snacks offered to give me $9 from his piggy bank when I was searching high and low for some misplaced cash saying, "You can have it, Mom, I don't care when I get my fish tank."

I know I can't record and keep it all...

but I'm sure going to try my best.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Today is John's 38th birthday. Since I have known him, John has not been on good terms with this particular day of the year.

But this morning he got to snuggle in the dark with his best girl (the little one), and after an hour in bed alone enjoying his coffee in peace, Snacks brought his dad breakfast in bed on the red plate that says, "You Are Special Today," and a fancy birthday card that he made himself.

The kids "kept Daddy company" while he ate, and then John went for a run and worked on his truck.

After several naps and an afternoon to himself at home, John and I went to the Birchwood for an evening out while Grandma Ruth and Bob stayed with the kids.

There's a full moon tonight--a perfect ending to the best birthday John's had in years.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

A Perfect Fall Evening

Cold, dark, blustery and rainy.

Homemade potato leek soup made with my own chicken stock and herbs and CSA veggies.

A glass of organic wine.

A cozy living room.

A soft, bulky sweater.

Kids tucked safely in warm beds...


It doesn't get better than this.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

History of Us

Today I framed the first of our wedding photos. John and I have been married for almost 9 years.

I heard a speaker on public radio this afternoon talk about how people get stronger during times of adversity. Though I have heard it many times, this is the first time that I truly understood it...and believed it.

I believe it's true that this economic "downturn" is making me stronger. I believe it is making my marriage stronger, our family stronger...and it is absolutely making us stronger parents.

John and I can see clearly now the mistakes that we've made over the past decade. We wish we had done many things differently so that money might not be as tight, and our future not so precarious.

We regularly reminisce about how things were when we grew up--so different, we've thought, than how our children are now growing up.

John remembers that his parents always had more than enough money; always had nice things--including a big, fancy house in a swanky part of town...and a sailboat, even though his mother stayed home with the kids. These memories often trouble him because he feels his children don't have what he did at their age. This is a topic of frequent discussion between us.

It wasn't until last week when John shared some of our economic frustrations with his mother that he got a glimpse of how it really was when he was growing up. For example, she told him that she would count the days on the calendar until his dad got paid so she could go to the grocery store.

And thus, a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

This is precisely the reason that I maintain this blog: To chronicle how it really was for my children to look back on. As they grow up I want them remember all the things we have done together, how much they are enjoyed and loved, and all the things we are working so hard to teach them.

And, selfishly, I want them to know me like I have never known my own mother.

And so the wedding photos framed today are a part of working to surround my kids with more proof of their real history...

Visual complements to my written words.